Yes, I know what you are saying. “Pro wrestling isn’t a sport!” Yes, but some things transcend labels, and this is a story I wanted to bring forward.
WWE star Roman Reigns is a former college football player (Georgia Tech) and pro football player (the CFL’s Edmonton Eskimos). He’s 6-foot-3, 265 pounds and when you watch him, you are convinced that if a car hit him, the car would be destroyed. One of his closing moves is even called the “Superman Punch.”
So it came as a shock in October when Reigns, 33, real name Joe Anoa’i, announced on WWE’s live TV show “Monday Night Raw” that he was leaving to battle leukemia, a disease he had also fought 11 years before.
“There were a lot of emotions going on when I decided to tell people,” Anoa’i told me on Monday. “A big emotion was fear. I was insecure.”
But the reaction was an outpouring of support from people, via the crowd he made the announcement to, via email, text, social media. He felt the whole world reached out to him.
“I was overwhelmed. I felt just so reassured that I wasn’t alone. When you are holding a secret for so long you feel like you are trapped on an island with nobody to connect to, with nobody to kind of take that weight off your shoulders. But to receive that type of support, that type of positive reinforcement. I was overwhelmed. It felt really good.”
But it didn’t take too long for those who look down their nose at pro wrestling, or for those brave people on the internet who hide behind their anonymity, to start saying this was all a story line, or that he wasn’t really that sick. They were thinking about Roman Reigns, TV character. Not Joe Anoa’i, a man who has a wife and kids.
“I’ve been with my wife since college, so she has been through this whole process with me. My big concern was my daughter, who is 11. So she’s right at that age where she’s hearing all those misguided opinions and hearing different things from different people. I thought that as long as she hears it from me, ‘This is what is going on with Dad, and I don’t want you to worry,’ that she would be OK. And she’s been great.
“It’s hard, because as fathers and providers we want to protect. I’m so used to putting them in front of me and putting everyone first and making sure everything is OK. I learned it’s OK to sometimes put ourselves first when it comes to our health because then we can get healthy and take care of everyone else again.
A couple of weeks ago, Reigns returned to TV to announce that he was in remission. Now, being the top guy and holding the championship is not the top priority. Giving back is. Reigns visits children’s hospitals and wants to send a positive message to anyone who is fighting cancer or leukemia or any other disease where at times things may look hopeless.
“If anyone is struggling, I hope they can look at me and know that I am no different than them. I hope they can look at me and see that light. ‘If he can do it, I can do it.’ And that after they get through this rough patch, that there is a beautiful light that surrounds you and helps you appreciate life and those around you so much more. That they aren’t alone and that many of us know what they are going through. Take strength from me, take strength from your friends and family.”
I have battled cancer myself. It’s a deeply personal experience, an experience that shows you your own mortality and generates fear of the unknown and what could be around the corner. There are untold number of people going through a fight against cancer or leukemia or some other dreaded disease. If you are one of those people, it’s important for you to realize that you do not have to face this alone. Turn to a friend, or a loved one. Talk about your fears and anxieties with them. Don’t be afraid to let them know what you are feeling. Know there are many, many people who have gone through the same thing and will listen to you. There are support groups you can reach out to to help deal with the mental aspect of the disease. And if you really need to vent and feel you have nowhere to turn, you can email me. I can’t solve the problem, but I can let you know that you aren’t alone. And just expressing your doubts and fears can be a great help. So keep fighting the good fight.
source: LA Times